竹板凳的漁瘟

I dreamt about you again.

I went to your place, but it looked like a new place.
I think you are the only one living there.

There are 3 or 4 rooms, with a hall way surrounding the living room.
Sun is setting and bright orange light is pouring in through the windows.

I came in looking for you, but I couldn't find you.
And I saw your green backpack laying at the end of the hall way,
So I figured you are home.

I went sat down on the lover chair then you came out.
When you saw me, you gave me a smile and asked how I was doing.
You walked towards me and sat next to me in the lover chair.

You looked beautiful. With your hair down to your shoulders and wearing a light sweather.
You said "Rexy, I want to talk to you about your travel."
Then you took your hand and played with my hair.

I didn't understand what travel you were talking about,
but for some reason I felt so sad, and I broke down in tears.
You are so nice to me. You haven't been for a while.
Not even in my dreams.

You put your hands over me. I said "I don't want to go, I want to stay here with you."

You didn't say anything. You just smiled and we hugged for the longest time just feeling being next to each other.

Then I woke up...



Day, can you find sometime to write me an e-mail about how you've been feeling?
From the time that your feelings changed.
I know it's hard to talk on the phone because we let our emotions get in the way.
But if you write it down, you can tell a more complete story.

I want to know how you are doing.
Let's start our communications by writing to me, please? ^_^~

Sil,

The Day Patches won't go away!

I put on lotion but it didn't help at all!
I used the anti-itch ones too.

Now it feels like it's even growing on my right eye *_*
It itch and hurt so much /_\

Make it stop day~
I wish you were here to tell me it's going to be ok.

Hopefully it will go away before i sleep.

I cooked couscous today. Haven't had it for a while.

Do you have any plans for the Valentaine's day yet?

There is a saying, if you buy shoes for your boyfriend or girlfriend that means you want to end the relationship, becasue you want them to go away.

It's just funny that happens to be the last thing we bought for each other.

Today I was trying to put one of our 800 pounds rack in the the shipping crate. The crate was badly designed, and to get the damn thing to close, the metal part of the crate slamed in to my right middle finger. Blood came out right a way and I have a pretty deep cut on it. I think it's not just good things that comes in pairs.

So right now I have a bandage soak through with blood on my right hand, and day patches that refuses to quit everywhere else.

I am going to buy some anti-itch lotion that I bought for my mom, so maybe I can actually get some sleep. That is if I am lucky to be dreamless.

Eventhough I take what I said back, I think if you want your relationship with Sebastian to work well, you shouldn't keep bugging him about your ex-boy friend. Just be yourself and focus your attension to him. I hope everything works out.

Last week I thought we had fun on our phone calls. I thought our communications is getting better, but it would seem like that was just me. I don't know what made you decide you don't want to talk to me anymore, but it's unlikely you would share the reason with me.

I guess from now on, I won't see you, hear from you, our even get your e-mails. I won't bug you besides through writing on this board. Which you don't have to visit if you choose not to.

There's no doubt now what you want from me. Just leave you alone. I don't see how you will ask me to be your friend in the future. Still I wish for that day to come. You have control for everything since the breakup, all I can do is wait. I hope you will remember the promise.

So that's it. I got the boot and now I'll just get out of your way.

I'll miss you. Hope you sometimes think of me.

Hi Day,

Don't mind me (well, I don't really need to ask),
That was a stupid thing to ask.

I can't even be your friend when I really need one.

I know after you hang up on me, you probably just went ahead and call Sebastian about me harrassing you.

Why has our relationship come to this?
If you didn't have Sebastian right away, would you still be so cold to me?

The thought of you telling him about us just tears me up inside.
If it's about me, I want to be there.
He is probably glad that you can confide to him.
Day, what did I do?

I asked you not to talk to him, but that's not fair of me.
So I'll take it back. If he gets to be your confidant and I don't even get to talk to you, then so be it.
It just hurts, that's all.

Last night my Day patches got a lot worse.

I was covered from neck to toe.
My whole body swelled up and I look like a fat person.

It was a painful night inside and outside.

Good night sil,

I forgot to say to you.

I'll admit, since losing you I haven't been able to sleep very well because I dream about you and when I wake up I couldn't get back to sleep.

But today is just unbearable!

At first it just itched at one spot. I didn't wake up. I probably just itched in my sleep. But soon, it spread to more and more places. And it started burning. Finally it woke me up. I tried to ignore it but slowly I started itching them consiously. I started wondering why am I itching? Could there be millions of bed bugs biting me? I looked at the clock, it was barely 4 in the morning. Relactently, I got out of the bed and turned on the light. I looked at the bed, it was fine. But I had all these red marks all over my upper body which really itched.

I decided to wash my bedding at once then I was ready to take a shower. That when the itching marks started to look very familiar. They have turned into these elevated patches. Looks just like what you used to have freshman and sophemore years.

Having experienced them first hand, I realize how much you were in pain everytime they came. Poor sil. Though you looked beautiful even with them on you.

When I took a shower, they were bruning up. Now finaly they are slowly going away and it's already 5:30. This is going to be a long day....

I guess I didn't need to wash my beddings since it's just me, not bugs.

This is probably the worst way of missing you. Being in painful patches that looks like what you used to have. I've got Day Patches....

I hope you are not experiencing this anymore.

You must be happy right now. Is he pretty when he is asleep? Is he as pretty as Leehom here in the picutre? ^_^~

Hi sil,

By now you are probably home from the party. I hope you had fun. And I hope you spent lots of time with your old friends, you don’t get to see them often. Tell me about the party when you have time.

Well, yesterday I worked out with Dave and Fred. They are seriously buff. When we were working out, Dave was talking about how he tried to wax his girlfriend’s down there. That was… pretty awkward. He said he used hot wax and he made it too hot and he didn’t hold her skin. She was in so much pain, she didn’t let him go through with it. First of all, those are pretty bad ideas. Second of all, pretty weird at work. Third, was I supposed to say something to that? Like suggested the wax we use? Err…

Afterward I was thinking, why did you let me do it to you? It must have hurt just as much. You let me do it more than once too. I always felt so bad for doing it. Did you do it just to please me? I guess I won’t understand why you would do that for me. Just like you probably won’t understand why I would give you two thousand dollars to pay off your car faster.

Is there no way to save the care we had for each other?

I went out today. I first went to the Redwood City yacht harbor. No one was there. Even though the sun is shining for the first time in a month, but it was still freezing. Then I went to the Great Mall. Apparently the only covered mall in Bay Area.

What are you doing now?

China has the largest cell phone market in the world.
It is also one of the first markets my company tried to push the location technology into.

But there was a brand new China movie called "Cell Phone", directed by "Fong Xiao Gang" that scared the entire Chinese population crapless (actually a great enviromental movie).

It is about how cellphone is used to invade other's privacy.

Including knowing the exact location of others, down to what building, which floor and what room number. The the cheating husband is caught by his ex-wife and current girl firend.

Let's hope that is just another movie like "The Net", no one will stop using the internet just because of a stupid movie, hope no one will throw away their cell phones just because of a movie.

Actually, it is just impossible to get that accurate, especially indoors. But it's funny to hear the Chinese scared pants less by cell phones, when their government probably knows where they are all the time.

hahaha~

Hi sil,

I want to wish you have fun on your pre valentine party.

I guess I probably won't get to talk to you tonight.
You will probably go tomorrow together.

I hope you guys are not dating yet, because I want to ask you something.
Eventhough I probably know the answer to this already. but can't blame a guy for trying.

Will you be my valentine?

We can spend Valentine's day together.
Or my birthday together.
We can go to Ferducci together ^_^~
And eat round thingy, because I didn't have it yet.

What do you say?

Enjoy your party, remember to wear comfortable shoes ^_^~

再次聽到這句話，我並不驚訝。
因為，早從我第一次和她坐在一家咖啡店裡，
看著窗外狂舞的雪花，和迎面刺眼的銀白時。
我就知道，她會和我說這一句話，遲或早而已。
我只是在等，等那一天的來到，等那句話的降臨。
我為自己充分的做著準備，因為這次我不想再流淚。


當我的初戀雙手環抱著我的肩膀，
在我肩上，一面輕啜，一面在我耳邊輕輕的說

「我們還會是好朋友的」

我點了點頭，只要能見到妳，和妳聊聊天。
就是只能看著妳，觀賞妳像賞蓮花一樣，
我也心甘情願.....我想。

從那天紫色的夕陽溶入了夜幕後，
妳慢慢的教我什麼叫做朋友。

「朋友」　對妳來說，就是不會來煩妳的人。
越是不會打亂妳生活的，越是好朋友。
當然，妳需要幫助的時候，朋友一定要兩肋插刀。
可是事後也不要以為妳欠了我什麼。
反正，我是朋友，這些都是我的義務。

我頑暝不靈的不願意相信，那樣才是朋友。
我不時的打電話和妳聊聊，邀妳走走。
我以為，毫不保留的關懷，才是友誼。
可是妳的冷漠，眼神中的一絲絲厭煩，
和我眼神中偶爾忘記壓抑的愛慕時，對我毫不保留展現的憎惡。

一點一滴的殺死我的關懷，
一丁一點的切碎我唯一的心。

直到那天，我約妳一起去看場畫展，
妳電話中不情不願聲音再度切傷了另一個傷口。
妳珊珊來遲，我從滿是冰霜的鏡片後，
看到了妳挽著另一個身影。

「和你作朋友的意思，就是說我不想再見到你」

妳輕蔑的語氣，在寒冬裡為那破碎的心點上了一把火。
將它們焚燒成灰，直到我再也流不出一滴血淚為止。

呵，別怪我頹廢，別怪我消沉。
我所有的活力在努力治療我的心。
準備下一次的摧殘。


那位替我治好傷口的妳，
我以為妳會了解那句話對我的傷害。
沒想到妳只是換了一種語言，
對我做著同樣的欺騙。

「We will be better off if we are just friends,
　　　don't you think？」

Don't You Think　也許不是問句，
因為妳的尾音並沒有悠揚的提起。
好像是在命令我「不要想這句話的意義，照著做吧」
我不知道該感謝妳曾經幫我至好心上的那個創口，
還是該怨埋妳臨走時故意的把那傷口撕裂的更大。


Don't You Think.... Don't you DARE to think

生命中有太多事情，搞清楚了後只是讓自己迷失了生命的方向。
讓寂寞，孤寂，再度把我套牢。

這次，我有了充分的準備，
不會再陷入那美麗的謊言中，
也不會讓過去的回憶再度發膿。
當她一臉歉意的說

「我們還會是朋友吧？」的時候，

我對著她微笑，並不回答會不會，只說

「我了解」.......................





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When I heard the phrase again, I wasn’t surprised.
Because from the first time we sat in a corner cafe,
looking out the window, enjoying the choreography of the snow flakes,
I knew sooner or later she would say this to me.
I just have been waiting for that day to come, for that familiar phrase to visit.
I thought I was fully prepared, because this time I can’t want to shed a tear.

When my first love embraced me from the back,
lied her head on my shoulder, she was softly crying, and said to me

“We will still be good friends”.

I nodded my head. Just as long as I get to spend time with you, and talk to you,
even just get to look at you, like enjoying a lotus blossom, I would be satisfied..... So I thought.

Since that night, after the dark sky slowly devoured the purple sunset,
You began your lesson to me on what “friends” mean.

“Friend” to you, is someone who wouldn’t bother you.
The more I don’t disturb your life, the better a friend I am.
Of course, when you needed help, a friend would do anything for you.
But after words, that doesn’t mean you owed me anything.
I am your friend, these are my duties.

I am stubborn, I refuse to believe that is what you meant by being friends.
I often call you, ask you out for a walk.
I thought not being stingy with my care for you, is being your friend.
But in your coldness, your eyes showed frustration.
When I sometimes forgot to hide my true feelings in my eyes, you wouldn’t hesitate to show your resentment.

Drop by drop drowning my care,
Bit by bit cutting my only heart to pieces.

Until that day when I asked you to go to the exhibit,
The unwilling tone in your voice opened up another wound.
You came late, from behind the icy lenses,
I saw you holding on to someone else.

“What I meant by being your friend, means I don’t want to see you again!”

In that cold winter day, the despise in your voice, lit a flame to the broken pieces of my heart.
Burning them to ashes, until I can’t bleed one more drop of blood.

Ha, don’t blame me for being down, don’t blame me for being depressed.
I have used all my energy trying to mend my heart,
And wait for the next abuse.

You once healed my wound,
I thought you knew how much that phrase would hurt me.
But you just used paraphrased and told me the same lie.

“We will be better off if we are just friends,
　　　don't you think?”

“Don't you think” maybe wasn’t a question,
because you didn’t lift your beautiful tone at the end of the phrase.
Rather it was an order. “Don’t you think about what I mean, Just do as I say.”
I don’t know if I should thank you for mending the wound on my heart.
Or blame you for tearing that would even bigger on purpose when you left.

Don't You Think.... Don't you DARE to think.

There are too many things in life, after understanding it, only gets you more lost in your directions, let loneness once again imprisons me.

That’s why this time I am truly prepared.
I will not fall in to that dazzling lie.
I will not let those memories in the past profess.
When she remorsefully said

“We will still be friends right?”

I just smiled at her, and didn’t answer the question. I only said

“I understand”............




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When I saw this short story under my folder, I was shocked. I remember writing it, but I don’t remember why. Every word hits me so hard, as if I left a warning to myself from the past. Looking at the file properties I found out I wrote this on November eighteenth, 1998. Then suddenly I remember why I wrote this.

It was that time freshman year when you told me you just wanted to be friends.

I was crushed.

I went home, feeling really bummed, so I did what I used to do to let steam off. Write.
I exaggerated a little bit, and made up some details. I just wanted to say how I feel.
I don’t think I truly understood what I was writing about.

Was I more mature 5 years ago to have the courage to just say “I understand”?
I guess not, because afterwards I still tried my best getting close to you. And eventually you returned my feelings. That was all miracle for me.

This time around, I really loved you. I truly understood those feelings I described 5 years ago. This time, you meant it when you said you just want to be friends.

I won’t get to go visit you. I won’t get to see you. I won’t get to talk to you much for that matter.

There are things I can not control. It feels like I knew they were on their way. Yet I am just as helpless when they happen.

To be honest with you, I still don’t know how you could do it.
Fell in love so soon, as if you’ve been waiting for it.
I talked to William a few days ago. His relationship ended 6 month ago.
Still he says he doesn’t want to look for someone yet, because he feels like he couldn’t be fair to her.

That’s exactly how I feel. Not like I can get a girl, but even if I could, I won’t be able to be fair to her.

I want to be your friend. I hope you will treat me like one soon. It’s funny how you always drop me when someone else is calling you, even when we were together. Now I am your friend, do I get to be let in now? Or I’ll always be the one that gets dropped off, just because I am me?

普 通 朋 友 詞曲: David Tao
pu3 tong peng2 you3

等 待 ，我 隨 時 隨 地 在 等 待 ，
deng3 dai4 ，wo3 sue2 shi2 she2 di4 zai4 deng3 dai4，
做 你 感 情 上 的 依 賴。
zuo4 ni3 gan3 qing2 shang4 de yi lai4。
我 沒 有 任 何 的 疑 問 ，這 是 愛。
wo3 mei2 you3 ren4 he2 de yi2 wen4，zhe4 shi4 ai4。

我 猜 ，你 早 就 想 要 說 明 白。
wo3 cai，ni3 zao3 jio4 xiang3 yao4 shuo meng2 bai2。
我 覺 得 自 己 好 失 敗。
wo3 jue2 de2 zi4 ji3 hao3 she bai4。
從 天 堂 掉 落 到 深 淵 ，多 無 奈。
zong2 tian tang2 diao4 luo4 dao4 shen yuan，duo wu nai4。

我 願 意 改 變 (what can I do?)
wo3 yuan4 yi4 gai3 bian4 (what can I do?)
重 新 再 來 一 遍 (just give me a chance)
chong2 xin zai4 lai2 yi bian4 (just give me a chance)

我 無 法 只 是 普 通 朋 友。
wo3 wu2 fa3 zhe3 shi4 pu3 tong peng2 you3。
感 情 已 那 麼 深 ，叫 我 怎 麼 能 放 手？
gan3 qing2 yi3 na4 mo shen，jiao4 wo3 zen3 mo neng2 fang4 shou3？

但 你 說 I only want to be your friend，做 個 朋 友。
dan4 ni3 shuo I only want to be your friend，zuo3 ge peng2 you3。
我 在 妳 心 中 只 是 just a friend，不 是 情 人。
wo3 zai4 ni3 xin zhong zhi3 shi4 just a friend，bu2 shi4 qing2 ren2。

我 感 激 妳 對 我 這 樣 的 坦 白，
wo3 gan3 ji ni3 due4 wo3 zhe4 yang4 de tan3 bai2，
但 我 給 你 的 愛 暫 時 收 不 回 來。
san4 wo3 gei3 ni3 de ai4 zhan4 shi2 shou bu4 hue2 lai2。

So I 我 不 能 只 是 be your friend。
So I wo3 bu4 neng2 zhi3 shi4 be your friend。
I just can't be your friend no,no,no,
I just can't be your friend no,no,no,
我 不 能 只 是 做 你 的 朋 友，
wo3 bu4 neng2 zhi3 shi4 zuo4 ni3 de peng2 you3，
不 能 只 是 做 普 通 朋 友。
bu4 neng2 zhi3 shi4 zuo4 pu3 tong peng2 you3。



Regular Friend By David Tao

Waiting, I've been waiting every minute and every second,
to be the one you rest your love on.
I have no doubt at all, this is love.

I guess you've been wanting to tell me the truth.
I feel that I am such a failure.
Falling from heaven to hell, how helpless?

I am willing to change (what can I do?)
Let us start over (just give me a chance.)

I can't just be just your regular friend.
My love for you is already so deep, how can I just let go?

But you say I only want to be your friend, be a regular friend.
In your heart, I am only just a friend, not your love.

I appreciate your honesty to me.
But my love for you can't be taken back for a while.

So I, I can't just be your friend.
I just can't be your friend no,no,no,
I can't just be your friend,
Not just a regular friend.


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I never thought this song would become the exact words out of my mouth.
If I had David Tao's voice, would I be able to sing you back to my side?

Did you have round thingy? Is that kind good?

I guess last time my persian food metaphor could be changed to round thingys huh?
Thank you for calling me today. Thank you for missing me. I know even when I am 70, I’ll still miss you. Miss the times we had. I’ll regret losing you. (till your hair turns grey :P)